You make some excellent points here. I was formerly married to a BPD diagnosed wife for 25 years (for the kids' sake), and all 5 points hit home. I have since been remarried to a mentally healthy woman for three years now and never knew a relationship could be this good. It was also comforting to find out I wasn't the problem, despite her claiming it was my mental disorder that ruined our relationship. All my relational issues disappeared when she did.